This is a free, private Five Love Languages test that measures both how you prefer to receive love and how you tend to express it, across Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Physical Touch, Acts of Service, and Gifts. It is based on the official Dr. Gary Chapman’s Five Love Languages quiz framework; for background and official descriptions of each language, see the program’s official site. 5lovelanguages.com
How scoring works (receive, express, combined 0-100)
You’ll rate 70 brief statements on a 1-5 scale. The tool computes:
- Receive scores per language (how strongly each way of being loved resonates for you)
- Express scores per language (how you tend to show love)
- Combined score per language normalized to 0-100 for easy comparison
Reverse-worded items are included to improve response quality; these are automatically adjusted in scoring. Your top language is the one with the highest combined score, but treat the full profile as more informative than a single label.
The five domains explained
Words of Affirmation
Appreciative, specific language, feedback during difficult moments, and verbal recognition. Useful when you value being seen and understood through words.
Quality Time
Focused attention, shared activities, routines you repeat, and distraction-free check-ins. Regular, intentional time together tends to raise this score.
Physical Touch
Supportive, consensual touch ranging from casual closeness to intimate contact. Often stabilizing during stress or conflict repair.
Acts of Service
Practical help, reliability, follow-through on tasks, and proactive support that reduces your load.
Receiving Gifts
Thoughtful tokens, well-timed items, and mementos that show someone paid attention to your preferences or shared moments.
Love Language Statistics and Trends
Understanding how love languages distribute across populations can provide valuable context for your own results. Here’s what research reveals about love language preferences:
| Love Language | Popularity Ranking |
| Quality Time | 1st (38%) |
| Physical Touch | 2nd (24%) |
| Words of Affirmation | 3rd (19%) |
| Acts of Service | 4th (13%) |
| Receiving Gifts | 5th (7%) |
Receive vs express profiles: what differences mean
It’s common for your receive and express profiles to differ. For example, you might feel most cared for by Quality Time yet mostly show love through Acts of Service. Use gaps as action items: increase behaviors in the ways your partner prefers to receive, and communicate what helps you feel cared for.
Additional indices: breadth and response bias
Breadth index
This summarizes how concentrated or wide your preferences are across the five languages. Narrow breadth indicates one or two dominant channels; broad breadth indicates you resonate with many forms of care.
Response-style check
A light acquiescence indicator looks for a tendency to strongly agree or disagree across items. Treat it as a quality hint, not a judgment; if it’s high, consider retaking more thoughtfully.
Partner alignment: compare two results
If both partners take the 5 Love Languages quiz, compare Person A’s receive scores with Person B’s express scores. High alignment suggests daily habits already match preferences; large gaps suggest clear opportunities. Small adjustments often matter more than grand gestures.
How to use your results in real life
- Share your top two receive languages with examples you actually like. Give concrete, low-effort examples your partner can repeat weekly.
- Translate differences into routines If you prefer Quality Time and your partner leans Acts of Service, schedule a weekly device-free hour while they also take a recurring task off your plate.
- Keep a lightweight check-in Every month, ask what landed well and what to tweak. Rotate through all five languages to avoid getting stuck in one lane.
- Apply beyond romance The framework can inform friendships, family, and work appreciation. Adapt intensity and boundaries to the relationship context.
Who this test is for, time needed, privacy
Audience Couples, individuals reflecting on patterns, and anyone curious about how different signals of care land for them.
Time About 10-12 minutes for most people.
Privacy All scoring runs locally in your browser; no answers are uploaded or stored on a server. Copy results if you want to save them.
FAQs
Is there a single “primary” love language? Some people show a clear top score; others show a balanced profile. Contemporary research finds mixed evidence for a fixed primary language and suggests people often value multiple channels. Use profiles as guides, not rules. SAGE Journals+1
Does having different love languages mean a relationship problem? Not by itself. Studies suggest responsiveness to a partner’s preferences matters more than perfect matches. Use your partner’s receive profile as a behavior checklist.
Is this a clinical assessment? No. It’s an educational tool based on a popular relationship framework. For therapy or acute relationship distress, work with a licensed professional.
Can I change my scores over time? Yes. Context, habits, and relationship stage can shift which signals land best. Retest after meaningful life changes or after a few months of practice.
References and sources
- Official overview of the Five Love Languages from the program’s site, including definitions of each language. 5lovelanguages.com
- Peer-reviewed review of research on love languages and why the idea persists. SAGE Journals
- Study reporting that responsiveness to a partner’s stated preferences relates to higher relationship quality. PMC
Would you like to share your results, or discuss them? Welcome to the comments section below!
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