Attachment Style Test (Free & Science-Based)

Why do you act the way you do in relationships? Do you constantly worry that your partner doesn’t love you enough, or do you find yourself pulling away the moment things get serious? These patterns aren’t random – they are defined by your Attachment Style.

This free online tool is based on the Experiences in Close Relationships-Revised (ECR-R) questionnaire. Developed by researchers Fraley, Waller, and Brennan (2000), this assessment is widely considered the “gold standard” in psychological research for measuring romantic attachment. Unlike pop-psychology quizzes, this test uses scientific metrics to map your emotional landscape on two specific axes: Anxiety and Avoidance.

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How to Use This Attachment Style Test

This tool is designed to be quick, anonymous, and insightful. To get the most accurate results, please follow these guidelines:

• Be Honest: The test is only as accurate as your answers. Try not to answer how you wish you were, but how you actually feel and behave in relationships.
• Think Generally: Don’t focus solely on your current partner (or lack thereof). Think about how you generally feel across all your romantic experiences.
• Take Your Time: There are 28 questions. Read each statement carefully before selecting your agreement level on the 1–7 scale from “Strongly Disagree” to”Strongly Agree”.

How the Science Works: The Two-Axis Model

Many people believe there are simply “Secure” or “Insecure” people. However, modern psychology evaluates attachment based on two independent dimensions. This calculator processes your answers to generate a score between 1.0 and 7.0 for each dimension:

1. Attachment Anxiety (The Y-Axis)

This measures your fear of rejection and abandonment.

• High Score: You may worry frequently about your partner’s commitment, feel “needy,” or require constant reassurance.
• Low Score: You generally feel secure in your own worth and do not worry excessively about being left alone.

2. Attachment Avoidance (The X-Axis)

This measures your discomfort with emotional intimacy and dependency.

• High Score: You may value independence over connection, suppress your feelings, and distance yourself when people get too close.
• Low Score: You are comfortable opening up, sharing vulnerability, and depending on others.

By combining these two scores, the tool places you into one of the four quadrants: Secure, Anxious-Preoccupied, Dismissive-Avoidant, or Fearful-Avoidant (Disorganized).

Understanding Attachment Theory

Attachment theory was originally developed by British psychologist John Bowlby and expanded by Mary Ainsworth. It suggests that the bond formed between an infant and their primary caregiver creates a blueprint for all future social relationships.

While these patterns are deeply ingrained, they are not permanent. Psychology recognizes a concept called “Earned Security.” By understanding your style (and your partner’s), you can identify your triggers – such as the “Anxious-Avoidant Trap” – and consciously work toward a more Secure attachment style through therapy, communication, and self-awareness.

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